Child-rearing s a good reminder of what it’s like when the Father has made it clear to us what is right, and we willingly and stubbornly go the wrong way.
Another observation is that mothers tend to be quiet about the fact that their children aren’t perfect little angels. I have friends who suffer in silence because they fear their children are just too extremely misbehaved. Our problem is that we know what’s possible, we know what we want and what we have taught them, but they have minds of their own. And because we don’t share the challenges linked to parenting with other parents, we don’t realise that some of them face the same problems. And we end up thinking our situation is the worst out there, or that it will never change/improve.
As someone at church said as we were discussing our Adventist Home chapter a few weeks ago, “I encourage parents to keep working. Yes, the fruits might not always be visible right now, but they are working for time and eternity. When the children are older, they WILL remember the lessons they were faithfully taught.”
Having a child who does not do what you want, who does what you would never want, is a not a sign that you’re a poor parent. It’s not a sign that you’ve failed. It’s a reminder to stay on those knees, stay engaged and not to give up. Too many have given up their 8 year olds and said they were beyond redemption. For me, until a child is dead, there is always hope.