When you are adopting, you have the luxury of choice. Are you willing to take in a disabled baby? Special needs? HIV positive? HIV affected? Twins? 2 months old? Older than 6 months? Health problems?
And the one that is fun to think about-do you want a boy or girl or any?
I wanted a girl. Just because girls’ clothes are so much more fun! I love the bright colours, the cuteness of it all. And I found my girl easier to potty train as she doesn’t have any extra bits I have to think about. All very light reasons to PREFER a girl. And not to be taken seriously at all.
Dear husband on the other hand, wouldn’t mind a boy. Why? “Then we have another preacher!” He he he. Yeah. Our son retorted with, “Well, girls can teach!”
So when we got to the orientation meeting last week (We went last Friday) and the social worker asked what we’d prefer, we looked at each other, laughed, and said, “WHATEVER!! ANYTHING!”
And so, while I read others who started preparing for a specific gender, we wait to get clothes once we get the news that in a week’s time we will receive a little one. We were told you have a matching meeting where you will meet the social worker. She will then give you all info regarding the child’s background, birth parents’ background-usually the mothers because the dads are…Yeah.. You know. You get to see pictures of the little one and medical info too.) With our son we didn’t find out his gender. With our daughter, we found out. So I guess we’re back to option 1. Surprise when s/he comes.
And so, we continue to wait. But I do know that once the process gets going, it takes about 4 months. So the wait will be short. As I’ve mentioned a few posts ago.
(I’ll delineate the actual process THIS particular agency uses in a later post. This post was inspired as I read the blog of someone who had chosen a girl and so had bought very specific colours for the cot, was able to buy clothing and receive gender-specific gifts before they knew when the little one was coming.)